Humble Yet Still Assertive!

Pauline Respress, M.Ed.,
I pray daily that the Lord will keep me humble, but not so much --that I become a doormat. For many years I thought that being humble was to allow people to simply walk all over me, while I was silently screaming inside-- please stop. I have learned that there is a natural balance that we must find in being humble and having the ability to say no more to some. There are people who need to be stopped --they are silently screaming out-- please stop me. These people don't require our humbleness, they require that we as gently as possible--tell them no more. Tell them that your spirit is humble but your heart and mind are stronger --and that God has implanted in you a keener sense of discernment,empowerment and the ability to tell you the truth. The ability to tell you how your behavior makes me feel--I always thought that stating feelings were wasted words, that they should not be expressed but merely felt.

But on this journey I have learned that when we can find ways to express our feelings then they don't merely fester in us --and become a boulder that sits in our bellies. Words give feelings a label and allow us to clearly express what is inside of us. Feelings need a path to travel they are like a river that winds and spills out into a great ocean.

Once we can express our feelings they are then out into the universe where they are processed and returned to us in the form of free space-- much like our hard drives on our computers-- we can then download or upload new feelings--new experiences. There is a fine line between humbleness and assertiveness and at times we must juggle between saying what needs to be said and  humbling ourselves to the experience.

Sometimes silence is golden--it is in the moments of silence that we actually see what it is we need to see. Hear what it is we need to hear and experience what it is we need to experience. As I travel on this humbling journey I continue to learn that in the moments that we allow people into our space --we learn more and more about them and ourselves.

So this week ladies remember to remain humble while still staying true to your feelings.

Go Forth And Do Amazing Things This Week!

Kind Regards,

Pauline 

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